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“The Fear Of Missing Out” - A pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent"
In July of 2017 I drove my ancient, barely running BMW to Hudson, NY with just my acoustic guitar and a drum machine. I had no real plans other than to write as many songs as possible without the distractions of the city and for the first time in a long time, completely unplug. I found a real sense of happiness in this isolation. When I sat down to write, I found a clear horizon where ideas poured out and inspiration came from a defined and uninterrupted voice inside. However, in this state of focus I could not shake the feeling of FOMO. The feeling that even though I was doing the work I wanted to be doing, I was somehow missing out on opportunities and information with every second that I didn’t check my e-mail or send out a beacon of my existence into the endless echo chamber of social media. Even with my phone turned off, I found myself reaching for my pocket at the sensation of a phantom vibration.
Even with the internet physically unplugged, I found myself habitually reaching to check my e-mail. This sort of self-distraction would last late into the night until I’d inevitably turn on my phone only to find an empty inbox and a sense of disappointment in myself for allowing this feeling to hinder my ability to focus. I was so overcome with FOMO that the only thing I could write about was this very experience and this very feeling that we all seem to go through, to some degree, every day.
I ultimately left Hudson (after needing to jump start my car 3 times, P.S., the car is dead). with 10 new songs and the realization that -- to quote Beck -- “It’s All in Your Mind”. The only thing you’re missing out on is the peace of mind you are depriving yourself of by not accepting that you are probably right where you need to be. And while you were so swept up in thinking someone, somewhere must be having the time of their life, in reality they were probably feeling the same thing you were.
lyrics
You,
Pull me close and push me out the door
Simultaneously less and more
Satisfy but do not overflow
Half full or half empty I don’t know
I can feel your tension through the phone
It will be 6 weeks since you’ve been home
The modern tools that keep us in each others lives,
Create divides
You think they brings us closer thats a lie
We are so scared to unplug
Everyone wants to be loved
And free of doubt
The fear of, the fear of missing out
So,
Everybody gives into the fraud
Build yourself a shrine thats a facade
Your audience will hang on every word
So get those numbers high, cuz their your worth
Leave that phantom vibrate all alone
Anxiety from endless message tones
But if your scared of living in the moment tho
Just shut your phone
I promise you the planet won’t explode
credits
released March 2, 2018
Ben Talmi - Guitar, vocals, production, mixing
Cale Hawkins - Keys
Aaron Liao - Bass
Dan Drohan - Drums
Kate Steinberg - Vocals
Sulene Van Der Walt - Vocals
Elisa Lomazzo - Vocals
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